Welcome to my little collection of resources and musings around life, careers and self-worth, collated from my own research and experiences whilst working in the beautiful city of Oxford.

Like She Owns The Place

Like She Owns The Place

So when I read, I aggressively dog-ear my pages.

I look out for the most relevant content, and make sure I can look back at it with ease. Now I do lose friends over this method, but it really does work for me. Unless, of course, I’m reading a book by Cara Alwill Leyba. With her, I end up with no dogs left to ear.

I’ve come to like Cara a lot. She makes diets out of champagne and I have a lot of respect for that. Her books are also great, it’s like reading the inner thoughts of your own personal cheerleader. You could take any sentence, from any page, and you’d have yourself a mantra to stick on a motivational poster. 

I picked up two of her books in my irresponsible splurge, ‘Girl Code’ and ‘Like She Owns The Place’. One thing that stuck out about Cara as a writer, was her surprising pairing of vulnerability and confidence. She acknowledges frequently that she’s had a hard time and didn’t always know all the answers whilst also highlighting that she’s an absolute boss. She shines a much deeper authenticity than you often get with these books, which I think is so important and a lot of people need.

That being said, there was a lot of focus on motivation and mindset but not as much advice on practicalities and execution, which, personally, is what I’m looking for. I was hoping the second book, ‘Like She Owns The Place’, would provide a bit more of that. Don’t get me wrong, these books are a gift to women as guides for improving confidence, but I was waiting for the manual on how to press GO. And whilst both have spaces for thoughts, notes and goals, I still can’t bring myself to write in a pretty book (despite my horrific dog-earing).

Despite all of this, my cheerleader’s time wasn’t wasted and I did pick up some great reminders of the attitudes and mindsets I need to adopt for my personal and professional development. Here are some of my favourites, cliché poster pictures included.

Her success is not your failure

Why has the formula worked? Because its my own

There’s a special place in hell for women who don’t help each other

They don’t serve champagne at a pity party

Don’t apologise for chasing what you love

Photos by Joseph Young, Xan Griffin, Jeremy Bishop, Oliver Niblett and John Such Unsplash

A Little Context

A Little Context

The F Word

The F Word